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You’ll get over it…” It’s the clichés that cause the trouble. To lose someone you love is to alter your life for ever. You don’t get over it because ‘it” is the person you loved. The pain stops, there are new people, but the gap never closes. How could it? The particularness of someone who mattered enough to grieve over is not made anodyne by death. This hole in my heart is in the shape of you and no-one else can fit it. Why would I want them to?

( Jeanette WintersonWritten on the Body (via feellng) )

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johnnysjetpack:

miso-soup-gyny:

anti-feminism-pro-equality:

What if this had been reverse? What if the girl dumped him and then he smashed all of her CDS or her cellphone and laptop? How would society react? By calling him abusive and controlling.
See, female on male abuse is seen as funny or comical. you see those commercials with the wife throwing the boyfriends stuff out the window. IF the genders were reversed, everyone would see it and call it out for what it really is…abuse.
Abuse is not funny in any way shape or form.
This is why we don’t need feminism.

This mother fucker also owes him a fuckton of money.

thats more than 600$ worth of games!
that’s a fucking felony, theft and destruction of property. call the law on the psycho bitch!

"This is why we don’t need feminism."
Actually, it’s why we DO need feminism. Because feminism isn’t about making women superior and putting men on the bottom. Feminism IS about making everyone equal. The “comedy” behind male abuse is a result of the patriarchy, which is exactly what feminism is trying to destroy. The patriarchy mocks weakness in men, so when men get abused, it’s not taken seriously. It’s a joke, it’s funny, it’s no big deal. “You’re a man, suck it up.”
That’s not what feminists want. If you think that’s what we want, then you you’re not talking to the right feminists. It’s about equality, NOT just reversing the roles, understand?
It’s not okay to abuse women, it’s not okay to abuse men, it’s not okay to abuse ANYONE. That’s the fucking point. The point isn’t “whaa it’s time for women to get to be mean you need to lean your place”. The point is gender inequality is stupid and unhelpful to everyone.
So if you don’t like the way men are treated, don’t hate on feminists. Join them. We don’t like it either.

Thank you.

THANK YOU.

I wish the feminists on this site would all think this way.

all the feminists on this site do think this way. the people who don’t think this way are not feminists

ninjaotta:

just-your-average-superman:

cherry-babe:

mystuffstuff:

sarcasticallyfabulous:

johnnysjetpack:

miso-soup-gyny:

anti-feminism-pro-equality:

What if this had been reverse? What if the girl dumped him and then he smashed all of her CDS or her cellphone and laptop? How would society react? By calling him abusive and controlling.

See, female on male abuse is seen as funny or comical. you see those commercials with the wife throwing the boyfriends stuff out the window. IF the genders were reversed, everyone would see it and call it out for what it really is…abuse.

Abuse is not funny in any way shape or form.

This is why we don’t need feminism.

This mother fucker also owes him a fuckton of money.

thats more than 600$ worth of games!

that’s a fucking felony, theft and destruction of property. call the law on the psycho bitch!

"This is why we don’t need feminism."

Actually, it’s why we DO need feminism. Because feminism isn’t about making women superior and putting men on the bottom. Feminism IS about making everyone equal. The “comedy” behind male abuse is a result of the patriarchy, which is exactly what feminism is trying to destroy. The patriarchy mocks weakness in men, so when men get abused, it’s not taken seriously. It’s a joke, it’s funny, it’s no big deal. “You’re a man, suck it up.”

That’s not what feminists want. If you think that’s what we want, then you you’re not talking to the right feminists. It’s about equalityNOT just reversing the roles, understand?

It’s not okay to abuse women, it’s not okay to abuse men, it’s not okay to abuse ANYONE. That’s the fucking point. The point isn’t “whaa it’s time for women to get to be mean you need to lean your place”. The point is gender inequality is stupid and unhelpful to everyone.

So if you don’t like the way men are treated, don’t hate on feminists. Join them. We don’t like it either.

Thank you.

THANK YOU.

I wish the feminists on this site would all think this way.

all the feminists on this site do think this way. the people who don’t think this way are not feminists

the different kinds of favourite characters

yourweeaboobs:

  1. my baby
  2. my husband
  3. my son
  4. let me ride you
  5. this motherfucker

mildrevolution:

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This is like a round of cards against humanity

Meredith + Zola.

Hello! I've just found your blog, and love reading your posts. My question are for the TW 4X10 review. Didn't 2x09 showed us that Stile's worst fear is his father blaming him for his mothers death. Couldn't his embracing/relationship outlook of Malia be in part due to his missing mother figure? He also called Scotts mom mother once. Stiles isn't seen as being friends with as many of the people as Scott is. Also, I think the flaws in the relationships/overcoming them make the show fun to watch.
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darachmoon:

Hi,

and first off - i’m sorry this has taken me forever to answer, but the last couple of weeks before the finale i got so many asks i couldn’t keep up, but now i’m in the process of answering them all :) thanks for your patience.

Let’s start with the 2x09 scene which is basically Stiles’ worst fear presented as an hallucination of his dad yelling at him

Sheriff: Why am I wearing black? What are you, an idiot? I just came from a funeral. You know, people wear black at funerals. Get out of my face.
It’s you.
It’s all you.
You know, every day I saw her lying that hospital slowly dying I thought, “how the hell am I supposed to raise this stupid kid on my own? This hyperactive little bastard who keeps ruining my life?” It’s all you.
It’s you, Stiles.
You killed your mother.
You hear me? You killed her.
And now you’re killing me.

We know so little about the stilinski family and its history, but for all the love they have for each other there is clearly something not right between Stiles and his dad. Like most family drama, this is probably because of misunderstandings, lack of communication and misinterpretations. But that just explains the problems, it doesn’t excuse them. But i’ve got another ask waiting about this, so i’ll hold on for now. I really want to look closer at this, but i need to do some rewatching first.

But they both lack a female influence in their lives and they seldom talk about Claudia. This is evident because in the few instances they do, they both freeze.

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1x10 Co-captain

Sheriff: You know, I miss talking to you. It’s like we never have time-
Stiles: Dad, you know, I have to make a phone call-I’m sorry. I’ll be right back.
Sheriff: I do. I miss it. And I miss your mom.
Stiles: What’d you say?

With the scene from 2x09 and other references as well, particularly from agent McCall regarding the sheriff and drinking, we get the idea that he struggled after Claudia passed away. And when people are grieving, hurting and under the influence things might be said that they don’t really mean. Or maybe they sort of do mean it, but never intended to say it out loud. Like the sheriff feeling overwhelmed and scared at the prospect of raising Stiles alone. A kid with ADHD and now also suffering from the loss of a parent. As a mom i can understand how such a thought can feel cripling.

We have signs that tell us Stiles feels guilty. Guilty for his mom’s death (why we do not know), guilty over being a burden to his dad, for being a handful. So he’s taken on a parenting role himself. He’s watching out for his dad’s diet and he does seem terrified at the thought of loosing another parent. This he even admits to Scott - he doesn’t want to involve his dad in the supernatural, he wants to shield him and keep him safe.

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Stiles also seems to have an extreme need for information. It is implied that he spies on his dad, listens in on his phone converstations, snoops through his things, records, police files etc. His dad won’t tell him - like most parents he wants to protect his kid, but stiles doesn’t want to be protected - he wants to protect. So he steals keys, duplicates keycards, knows his dads codes etc. He’s monitoring him.

4x09

Stiles: I know about the bills, Dad. I know about the collectors calling about Eichen House. I know about the advance from the department, about the credit cards.
Sheriff: Stiles, are you going through my stuff?
Stiles: Yeah, I go through all of your stuff. Especially when you keep things from me.
Sheriff: I keep things from you because you don’t need to know everything.
Stiles: Yes, I do. I have to know everything. How the hell else am I supposed to take care of you?
Sheriff: You’re not supposed to take care of me! I’m the dad. You’re the son. You get it?
Stiles: Dad.
Sheriff: Son. I take care of you.
Stiles: We’re supposed to take care of each other.

Remember that talk Stiles had with Morell in the guidance office after Matt died?

Morell: How about we get back to you? Stiles?
Stiles: I’m fine. Yeah, aside from the not sleeping, the jumpiness, the constant, overwhelming, crushing fear that something terrible’s about to happen.
Morell: It’s called hypervigilance, the persistent feeling of being under threat.
Stiles: But it’s not just a feeling, though. It’s it’s like it’s a panic attack.
You know, like I can’t even breathe.
Morell: Like you’re drowning?
Stiles: Yeah.
Morell: So if you’re drowning, and you’re trying to keep your mouth closed until that very last moment, what if you choose to not open your mouth? To not let the water in?
Stiles: Well, you do anyway. It’s a reflex.
Morell: But if you hold off until that reflex kicks in, you have more time, right?
Stiles: Not much time.
Morell: But more time to fight your way to the surface?
Stiles: I guess.
Morell: More time to be rescued?
Stiles: More time to be in agonizing pain. And did you forget about the part where you feel like your head’s exploding?
Morell: If it’s about survival, isn’t a little agony worth it?
Stiles: And what if it just gets worse? What if it’s agony now and then and it’s just hell later on?
Morell: Then think about something- “If you’re going through hell, keep going.

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This converstation comes right after Matt died and after Stiles has gone through a lot of drama with Scott becoming a werewolf, Peter and his murder spree and now this kanima business with Matt. It’s easy to assume that he’s referring to this when he talks about the not sleeping, the jumpiness etc. And on the surface that is probably true, but i also think this conversation masks as stiles opening up about things he’s been struggling with for a long time.

He’s basically describing trying to keep a panick attack at bay and i think this is what he does constantly. But he masks it, hides it and pushes it aside and focuses all his attention on others - mainly his dad and scott. As the seasons progress, more people have been included into his must take care of circle - like Lydia, Derek and also lately Malia and Liam. We joke about pack mom Stiles, but it’s really not a joke. Stiles has for all intents and purposes taken on the mom role in his relationship with his dad, and he’s projecting it onto his friends.

I agree with you that Stiles does seem to want a female influence as well, a mother figure in his life. But i don’t see his relationship with Malia as a result of this. I actually see this more as a parallel to his relationship with his dad. Stiles has taken on a parent role with both his dad and Malia, and i think guilt is at the root in both cases. I’ve disected the Stalia relationship here and won’t go into details now.

If there is anyone Stiles sees as a mother figure in his life, i think it’s Melissa. I have a feeling Stiles has been a prominent figure in their house in later years. Melissa reacts to stiles and his antics with the same kind of resigned amusement she does with scott and their interactions tells me she’s fond of him. Stiles feels so at home he’s even made himself a key something which doesn’t surprise Melissa at all.

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I do think she’s been the closest thing to a mom he’s had since he was 8 and the scene in the hospital when he calls her mom is heartbreaking, but you can also see how much it affects Melissa. She cares about this oddball, that much is clear and at times i do feel she understands Stiles better than the sheriff does. She certainly has more patience with him.

And another thing - she trusts him. When she finds inconsistencies with bodies, she calls Stiles. She trusts him with the supernatural. She trusts him to help take care of Scott - like when the faked his death. For however much the sheriff loves Stiles, he doesn’t seem to trust him.

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So Melissa is an important constant in his life, and so in the scene after Void has puked up another Stiles free of possession and Melissa is hesitant to touch him, you can see how much that really hurts Stiles. Because he’s scared the trust has been broken. Thankfully it hasn’t.

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I wholeheartedly agree with you that it’s the flaws in people, the flaws in their relationships and how they deal with it that is the most interesting part. All the main characters on Teen Wolf are layered and complex, and that is also why we care so much about them and get upset when we feel things aren’t going the way we want it to.

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tyleroakley:

9 words to make you really think.

This. Is. Profound.

This is something everyone should see

artbymoga:

stylefordays:

tyleroakley:

9 words to make you really think.

This. Is. Profound.

This is something everyone should see

"I don’t think I’m a big planner. I’d rather be able to just go with things as they happen. I don’t really know what I’m doing for the next few months and years and I don’t really have any desire to know. I think I’d be much more restless if I was chasing it desperately and wanting all these things."

I’m tired of talking about feminism to men.

I’m tired of explaining to men that the feminist movement will, in fact, benefit them as well as women. I’m tired of trying to hawk gender equality like I’m some kind of car salesman showing off a shiny new sedan, explaining all of its bells and whistles. I’m tired of smiling through a thousand thoughtless microaggressions, tired of providing countless pieces of evidence, tired of being questioned on every. Single. Damn. Thing.I’m tired of proving that microaggressions exist, tired of proving that I’m unfairly questioned and asked for proof. For a movement that’s centered around the advancement and empowerment of women, why do I feel like I’m supposed to spend so damn much of my time carefully considering how what I say and do will be taken by men?

I’m tired of men who insert themselves into feminist spaces with claims of hurt feelings. I’m tired of men who somehow manage to make every issue about them. I’m tired of men like the one who recently stopped by a friend’s Facebook thread in order to call feminism “c*nty”, then lecture the women involved for being too “hostile” in their responses to him. I’m tired of men telling me that my understanding of feminism and rape culture are wrong, as if these aren’t things that I have studied intensely. I’m tired of men who claim to be feminist allies, then abuse that position to their own advantage. I’m so fucking exhausted by the fact that I know that I will have to, at some point in this piece, mention that I understand that not all men are like that. I will have to note that some men are good allies. And all of those things are true! And all of you good allies get cookies! But honestly,I’m tired of handing out cookies to people just because they’re decent fucking human beings.

( Anne Thériault, I’m Not Your Feminist Mommy & I’m Tired of Holding Your Hand (via alwaysinyouratmosphere) )

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shout out to all the people still following me even though im a fucking idiot